She is not your rehab. Matt Brown

 

I was unable to attend the trauma conference that was held in New Plymouth that Matt was a keynote speaker at so I was grateful to be gifted the opportunity to hear Matt speak recently (15/6/23). I am also reading his book.


At the end of the talk I asked Matt what he would have needed from me if I was his teacher when he was 5. He said just to be a safe place, to listen and to be kind.


It is important to look beyond the behaviour that is in our face and ask what might have happened for a child to get to these big emotions and this space.


At the same time we often are supporting the parents of children. She is not your rehab made me think more about being kind, compassionate, understanding and above all non judgemental. People are doing their best.


It made me consider the women in the worlds of these children. Who and what are they having to be in this trauma context. Is what is happening in their own relationships impacting on their availablity to the children they are raising?

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